How many times have you heard or been told to not forget where you came from? Have you ever uttered those words to someone else? Maybe you feel pressure to “Keep it Real” now that you have reached a level of success that has placed you in a totally different socioeconomic position and thus separated from your old peers. The one thing that I must emphasize is to not feel in any way guilty about your success. You have earned it on your own merit and you should be very proud of it. I realize that it can be difficult to watch as your friends and family remain to struggle in a lifestyle that you have managed to rise above. There may be an urge to take the cliche of “not forgetting where you came from” and making some very poor decisions.
If you are a person who has, through hard work, luck, or divine intervention, risen above your circumstances to make for yourself a better life, your life has indeed changed. The same rules no longer apply in your new life that used to work in your old one. So, you must cleverly adjust to those new changes. This does not mean becoming a totally different person, but what you must to is make some major adjustments. It is very similar to losing weight. Your old clothes are now too big. Does it make sense to keep wearing them?
I have all too often seen individuals so desperately wanting to be accepted by their less fortunate friends and family members try to force themselves into an environment or situation that should no longer be a part of their lives. Rather than being called a snob or traitor to their past lifestyle, they choose place themselves in places they no longer belong. This is when I believe “keeping it real” goes wrong. Your past is part of you, but if you have created a new and better life for yourself, you have also created a new reality. This new reality is what you need to immerse yourself in. Be an example to your old peers, but do not allow them to make you feel guilty about your success. These feelings of guilt may cause you to make choices that are not beneficial to you and may cause you to lose all that you’ve gained. Remain selective about the company you keep even if it means losing a few friends. Those who really love and respect you will understand.
Last year my son’s swimming instructor gave him a valuable swimming tip for helping someone who is drowning in the pool. He told him to lie down on the edge of the pool and reach for the person’s hand, because if you get into the pool with that person, they may drown you as well. In life, we must not allow those to pull us off into the deep end with them. Instead, we must keep our bodies firmly on dry land so that we may help them without sacrificing ourselves.
“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.
“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”
― Steve Maraboli
“The great courageous act that we must all do, is to have the courage to step out of our history and past so that we can live our dreams.”
― Oprah Winfrey
Today’s Writing Prompt: Create a travel brochure for an imaginary place.
The first week back to school is now over. Now my son and I have brand new and exciting things to learn and do. He and I have been very busy. My son loves his new teacher and I am thrilled with all of my classes. I am so glad that my son has the same passion I have for learning . He learned from his teacher last week that his class will be learning to take notes and that is all he has been talking about. I have always told him that knowledge is power, but with great power comes great responsibility.
I am now teaching him to fight through distractions to help him focus on his tasks as I had difficulty with this in the past. My problem was that all of the distractions were in my own head. I have learned to work around it. It seems that I need a lot of outside activity to focus. I tend to write and study in a noisy room. I find it difficult to work in quiet, but it seems the opposite for my son. Certain tasks he can complete within seconds, but others take some time if there are outside distractions like other children. Working in a group is distracting to him. He seems to only be distracted in writing exercises, but not with math (I had the some problem, but it was the total opposite. I could drown out distractions when I was working on writing projects, but I would become extremely distracted when working on math). Although, my son is an honor roll student, I don’t want this to become a problem for him. I am opened to suggestions.
My son loves to read and is extremely focused when he is reading. I know he is capable of focusing, He has had this issue with focusing on a task in the past, but I didn’t last the entire school term. It would usually happen close to the beginning. Still, I don’t want it to hinder him. I hope I am not overreacting, but I want to be proactive so it will not grow into something that will disrupt his academic success.
Today’s Writing Prompt: Describe one thing from three different points of view.
- A three-year-old
- A teenager
- A 50-year-old woman who has just completed a 30 year prison sentence
I have been called many things because I am an introvert. I’ve been called shy, standoffish, snobby, weird, and the list goes on and on. I have noticed that since I have come to love, accept, and be honest about my introversion, everyone else has done the same. It still takes a while for people to get used to me, but I no longer worry about whether or not they like it or not. I love it and I love me.
For anyone who is not used to the behaviors of introverted people, here are some things you may want to know:
- There is no need to “break us out of a shell”. Certainly we have a shell and we usually like to spend time in it alone, but its our shell and we like it. If you are patient enough you may be invited in. By no means should you attempt to break it!
- Our need to be away from you should not be taken personally. You haven’t done anything to offend us. We just need alone time to think and recharge.
- We do like people. We just pick and choose the time we spend around them, and we usually like them in smaller doses.
- There is nothing wrong with us. Please stop asking if something is wrong and if we tell you nothing is wrong – BELIEVE US AND WALK AWAY
The main thing to consider is that we are just the way we are. Don’t try to fix us because we aren’t broken.
I was packing a lunch for my son this morning and I flashed back to the night before when I was in the store getting the last of his school supplies. I was peeking into other people’s shopping carts and scoping out what they were buying and wondering if what they were purchasing would wind up in a child’s lunch boxes. Then I wondered what influenced those particular selections. Then I started to think of other possible alternatives for my son. Here are the three questions I ask myself as I plan my son’s lunches:
- Will it “go bad” before lunchtime?
- Is it healthy?
- Is he going to like it?
I usually pack things like celery sticks, nut butters, grapes, and things like that. I steer clear of processed foods. Although my son has never complained, I would like to switch it up a bit. Any suggestions?