Today I took a good look of the people I associate with. I examined my relationships with them and took note of how I felt around each person. The purpose of this little experiment was to see why I had chosen to allow certain people into my life. I wanted to know what role they were playing and in what ways did I need them.
The first thing I noticed was that the majority of the people I spend time with are at 25 or more years older than me or at least 10 years younger. I only have a few associates who are close to my age. This revelation caused me to take a look at why I have chosen to surround myself with people outside of my generation.
I believe I have chosen the company of older people because I love to learn. Who better to learn from than those who have live twice as long as you have. Another reason why I enjoy the company of people significantly older than myself (60+), is because they are established in life and are at a point of just living for pure enjoyment. They are not in the daily hustle of raising children, starting a career, etc. They generally have less to complain about. Life to them is about finding things to enhance their lives. When I am around them I feel hopeful. They inspire me to live for myself and enjoy life. They also inspire me to slow down and to not take things so seriously. I have found that they have been able to teach me to look at the big picture. When I am having a difficult time they have been able to remind me that it is just a blip on the radar. Being around these people shows me that growing older is a wonderful thing. Aging is beautiful and a blessing and something to look forward to.
Next, I examined my relationships with the younger generation (25-30). I have also learned from this lot as well. This group is constantly thinking and challenging things. They are always up for a good argument. They can be very stubborn and are glued to their ideas so I find it very exciting to get into debate with them. They keep me on my toes. They are living in the moment and I can appreciate that. Sometimes I tend to think so long on something and eventually convince myself not to do it, only to regret it later. Being around younger people inspires me to go with my gut and if there are consequences to my actions I just deal with it.
My best friend and I are the same age. She is the only friend that is my age other than my husband who is 2 years older than me. She and I could not be more compatible, but she is the only person my age that I have had a lasting relationship with. I am not quite sure why this is, but it has always been this way with me.
I truly enjoy the friendships that I have. Each of them have taught me so much. I would like to encourage all of us to seek out people who bring out the best in us.
― Jim Morrison
“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.”