I have recently rejoined the workforce. I have been out of the loop for about 8 years and my social skills needed a bit of polish. I was lucky to get a job working at my university. So, I know a lot of my coworkers. Many of them are also graduates of the university. I made friends with a lot of the professor as well when I was a student. Needless to say, it was a relatively easy transition.
Although I was in familiar territory, I really didn’t get to know any of the aforementioned people socially. All of them were interesting, intelligent, and good people, but being the introvert that I am, I didn’t make the extra effort to seek any additional social interaction. Recently, I was asked to lunch by a colleague of mine. I accepted because I can generally handle a one-on-one lunch date. She and I had often talked about getting together outside of work, but my introverted self did not push the issue even though I think she is a great person. On the ride to the restaurant, we talked and laughed and I started to plan future outings with her in my mind as she and I have more in common than I could have ever imagined. When we arrived at the restaurant I was told by my companion that several more of our coworkers would be joining us for lunch. I smiled on the outside, but I could feel myself powering down. I knew all of the people we were meeting and I liked them, but they would all be together with me at the table.
When we arrived the group had already assembled in a very large booth and they were beckoning us to slide in. We did. The group we were meeting have very big personalities and I love that about them, but it can be draining for a person like me. While sitting at the table, something amazing was happening. My lunch buddy was powering down too! She too was smiling nervously and way too much while nodding in agreement when making eye contact with someone. I don’t think either of us said much after sitting down. The rest of the group dominated the conversation. Of course I didn’t mind and she didn’t either. Nonetheless, I really enjoyed lunch, but I was glad when it was over. When my companion and I got back in the car, we both recognized the other’s introversion. We were relieved to find out we shared some level of tolerable discomfort during lunch. She suggested that our next lunch would be a one-on-one and we could actually talk to each other. I was thrilled! She also suggested a tea and reading day. The plan is to bring a book to one of the tea shops downtown, sit, drink tea, and read. I was thrilled to know that someone else in the world thinks of that as a good time!
I am so glad that I had the chance get to know this person. The most wonderful thing is that she too is an introvert and although we enjoy each other’s company, we can be content just drinking tea and reading books. No talking necessary.
I would like to encourage all of us introverts to take some small steps out out our comfort zones and get to know someone new. That someone may be the type of person you make a lasting connection with.
Last week I had a very persistent cough. I didn’t have a cold, but there was some construction going on in the building I work in. Surely there were things being conjured up from the depths of the walls, floors, and ceilings. So I decided to modify one of my grandmother’s cough remedies to sooth my cough.
iBourgie’s Natural Cough Remedy
1 tablespoon of honey (preferably local to your area)
1 tablespoon of lemon juice or the juice of half a lemon
1 tablepoon of Bragg’s apple cider vinegar
a pinch of cayenne pepper
1/2 clove of minced garlic (optional)
This remedy seemed to work instantly. You make take as needed. You may store it in the fridge or in a cool place. Make it in small batches and if you have any left over, mix it in with a glass of water and drink it down. Because of the honey, don’t give to children under the age of 1. My grandmother used it with garlic. I have used it with and without garlic and achieved satisfactory results both ways.
Persistence is the cousin of consistency, but they are very different. As I mentioned in my previous post, I have been struggling with consistency, but I have been persistent. I’ve noticed that my goals in life have not changed, but I have an issue with long-term commitment. I have been successful in many things, but eventually I tend to slow down and it takes some time for me to reach my full potential.
I have fallen into the habit if putting things off. Without having deadlines, I have become a bit of a slacker. I have been putting of so many things and have started to fall into another dangerous habit of putting my needs last. One thing I am thankful for is my ability to recognize it when it happens. It started with the light weight gain, headaches, and other signs that my body was telling me that it was being neglected. Surely, it was upsetting, but I had to do something about it. I couldn’t let it go on. I had to practice the things that I had in the past. I couldn’t let my slight, but evident regression discourage me.
Many of us struggle with various things in our lives, but we must be persistent in the pursuit of our goals. We can’t let the past effect positive changes we can make today. Falling behind should not stop us from running, walking, or crawling to the finish line.
I have been in a very intense discussion with a good friend of mine about consistency. After giving him a speech about how he should not expect certain results without being consistent, I thought about my neglect of this blog.
I started this blog as a personal accountability tool. I wanted something that would help me organize my thoughts and force me to write something that I felt was in some way meaningful on a regular basis. With all of my good intentions, I have not followed my own advice. I am ashamed of myself, but I am persistent. I will not give up on this blog. I was not prepared for how much I would enjoy this blog and I was not aware of how this blog kept me on top of many other things in my life.
When I was consistently posting to this site, I was eating better, I was writing every day, I was trying new things and learning from fellow bloggers. This blog was something that I truly needed in my life. Letting it go made me aware of that. This blog held me accountable.
I recently rejoined the workforce full-time and I have had some challenges adjusting to my new schedule after being a stay-at-home mom for 8 years. This blog and many other things have taken a hit. I have also fallen back into some of my poor eating habits, but I am getting it together. I love my job and I find it very rewarding, but I still need that time to nurture my creativity, mind, and body. This post is the beginning of my doing. I will be consistent.
I would like to encourage all of us to make take the first step to consistency. It does not have to be today, but do it soon. You may be struggling in your relationships, diet, academics, etc., because you are not taking the time you deserve to make positive steps toward your goals. I urge you to make a vow to yourself to do!