Have you ever been in a situation when you didn’t get the opportunity to say what you had to say? Take that opportunity to create a great story. You can literally rewrite history. Turn back the hands of time and get it out. Make it as colorful and outrageous as you like.
As I have mentioned in a previous post, I have a job at the university I graduated from and am surrounded by many people with interests similar to mine. Recently, I, along with some of my coworkers who are also English graduates, decided we would take out an English faculty member for lunch. Our first lunch was with the head of the English department. We had a wonderful time and got some really good advice and encouragement from him. He even gave us books! This past week we took out another faculty member. This lunch was equally as enjoyable, but in a different way. This faculty member made plans to host all of us along with our children to her home. She also gave us encouragement and advice, but the tone was entirely different than our other lunch. I noticed that I and my other introverted friend were much more talkative. We all laughed, made jokes, told stories, and contributed equally to the conversation. We were much more relaxed. We were getting comfortable in our little community.
It is very important for all of us to build a community. Even us introverts need a community. I am not saying that we will grow into extroverts, but it will make things a lot more comfortable for us in group situation when you have built a community. We may have to seek some people out and it may happen by accident as it did for me, but let it happen and give it a chance. There is no reason why you can’t pick the people you want to be around. We all need community and others to share our life experiences with. It can be a community based on our interests, our faith, or whatever you wish. As introverts we would be doing ourselves and others a disservice by not experiencing the benefits of being part of a community. Those who aren’t introverts need to get used to who we are. They need to see that we really do enjoy people, but we seriously need alone time. It is important for us to be understood and that cannot happen if we don’t take a little step outside of our comfort zones.
Today’s Writing Prompt: Imagine that one of your favorite mythical characters or animals actually existed. What would you do?
This writing prompt was inspired by an extremely funny and sort of sad incident that I experienced with a coworker years ago. My coworker, who was a very intelligent and articulate man with a serious drug problem, told me a very interesting story. I came in to work one day this coworker began to tell me that he saw a unicorn in the parking lot. He went on to describe how beautiful the unicorn was and that it came within an inch of his face before running away. Then he said he ran after the unicorn for a while before losing him. My coworker had the most convincing tone and coupled with my ignorance of his drug problem, I was becoming excited. I really wanted there to be a unicorn in the parking lot (I knew better, but a girl can still hope). As a child I loved unicorns and always hoped they were real, but later that day I found out about my coworker’s drug problem. After telling his unicorn story to several other people, he was asked to take some time off and was referred to a drug addiction and recovery program.
This prompt is for all those who are still hoping for the existence of unicorns.
Anyone who knows me knows that I love to toot my own horn. I also like to encourage the toots of others. I think is its very important to find things about yourself that you love and compliment yourself on them often. You should also not shy away from complimenting others. I have a proposition for all who read this post. Find at least 10 things you like about yourself and then find at least 10 people and compliment them on something.
iBourgie’s Ten Things She Likes About Herself
- I am a voracious reader. I have always had a love for reading. I will read absolutely anything. In addition to any genre of fiction, I love reading medical journals, magazine articles, textbooks, etc. Although I am an introvert, I have been able to use my love of reading to find something to talk about when I begin to feel awkward in social situations.
- My legs. No matter how much weight I lose or gain my calves always stay in shape. I got them from my grandmother. lol
- I am very silly. Most people are shocked by my sense of humor. Who says introverts aren’t funny? Once you get to know me, I will have you in stitches.
- My smile. It is huge and I can’t help it. I have a big mouth and I love it. I love it even more because I used to try to hide it and have grown to love it.
- I am generous. I genuinely love giving. Nothing make me happier than being able to do something for someone else.
- I don’t take myself too seriously. I make mistakes and that’s fine. So does everybody else. There is no need to dwell on them. I learn from them.
- I am forgiving. Without forgiveness, you are stagnant. I forgive others and I forgive myself.
- I know when enough is enough. I know my limits and I will not push myself past them, nor will I allow anyone else to.
- I can take criticism. Being able to take constructive criticism is the only way you can get better at anything. Not only can I take it, I ask for it.
- I have a great son! I can’t take all of the credit for it, but I had something to do with it. I am so proud of him.
Whenever you feel down, remember the things you like about yourself.