As I have written about many times, I am a work in progress. I am constantly examining things in my life, figuring out how to make things better, etc. One of the things that I love about myself is that I can have a good time alone. Sometimes I need to be alone, but that does not replace good company.
I have read a lot of self-help books, listened to seminars, read advice columns on how to be your best self and to seek your own approval before you seek the approval of anyone else. Although I believe that to be true, it is nice to have people in your life who tell you all of the wonderful things that you feel about yourself. It is nice to have people in you life who appreciate you and your contribution to the world. I’m not saying that we need outside confirmation to feel good about ourselves, but we should always be open to receiving it.
There has always been a huge push for women in particular to be independent. We should all be able to support ourselves and be independent in all areas of our lives, but we must not let that independence close us off from well-intentioned individuals who want to share life experiences with us. We do not have to prove our independence by shutting others out and going it alone. We don’t have to do that. We were not put on this earth to go through life without the fellowship, love, compassion, and companionship of others. People need people!
As a younger woman, I felt I had to prove that I didn’t need people in my life to be happy. I would go to out to dinner alone and be proud that I could do so without companionship. I wanted to prove that I could date myself, but I was honestly wanting to share a meal with someone. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with going to dinner alone, but there is also nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone. I need people.
I have also mention several times in my previous posts that I am an introvert. I love being alone sometimes. I need to be alone sometimes, but I also need people in my life. I need to socialize. I need someone to hold me when I’m sad. I need to hold hands with someone at a concert. I need someone so sing Journey songs with me in the car. I need someone to laugh at my jokes. I need someone to tell me that I am beautiful, and there is nothing wrong with that. You alone cannot supply all of your needs and it is okay to want friends or a significant other in your life.
I would like to challenge all of us to remain open to allowing people into our lives. Those who label themselves loners, antisocial, and even sometimes we introverts claim to not need people in our lives, but we do.