There are some things we have to leave in the past if we want to have a different future.
That is a lesson that has taken me years to learn. We can get so comfortable with past experiences that we make them our present and our future.
Many of us have lived through a tragedy, had our hearts broken, or been mistreated. There is no reason to keep reliving those horrible moments. Certainly those experiences have shaped the people we are today, but they don’t have to shape us in a negative way. We should view those experiences as learning moments.
We often use past traumatic experiences to excuse our present behavior, but the only reason these past experience continue to affect us is because we continue to reach into the past and bring them to the surface. If you have ever uttered the words “I am like this because_________happened to me a long time ago”, you are guilty of allowing past experience to shape your present life. Stop creating issues and focus on healing and moving forward. Learn from those experiences and make better choices for yourself.
If you were ever in a relationship with a dishonest person, don’t create trust issues. Make better decisions on who you share your life with. If you grew up in a household where accountability and responsibility were nonexistent and you can recognize that, don’t allow that to be your excuse to continue that pattern. I admit that not everyone who exhibits a certain negative behavior is aware of the reason, but for those of us who like to blame current behavior on past experiences, we know exactly what we are doing. We know there was a problem in the past. Let’s leave it behind and move forward.