It is so simple. It’s free and it make you and others feel good. I try to give as many compliments as I can. I have been accused of being fake because I am nice to people that are not nice to me. I just like being nice to people. Really! It makes me happy.
My default is nice. It is much easier and doesn’t take much energy. I do get mad, upset, sad, frustrated, etc., but I don’t let those emotions change the way I treat people. I don’t believe anyone deserves to be treated badly. I feel that if a person has been terrible to you, just distance yourself from them as much as possible. That way you are not compromising your mental health.
I was recently in a very challenging situation. There was a person who was constantly trying to paint me in a bad light to others. I didn’t understand why this person was doing this. I would hear from acquaintances that this person was insinuating that I was a person who could not be trusted. My pleasant disposition was claimed to be disingenuous. It was all very disturbing, but my reputation speaks for itself. The claims were taken as baseless and silly. It did more damage to the person spreading the allegations.
Even though it has always made me happy to be nice to others, it used to be a struggle to be nice to those who were not particularly nice to me. What I had to learn to do is to see those people with compassion. There are so many factors that can contribute to a person’s negative or hurtful behavior. I choose not to consider myself as the source, and I definitely choose to not allow it to influence my attitude.