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Write on Wednesday #66

Today’s Writer’s Prompt: Your Dream Home

My husband and I recently purchased a home, and we love it!

There are so many elements of our home that I have always wanted. It is truly a sanctuary for me. It is even difficult for me to find vacations as satisfying as being at home.

For today’s writing prompt, write the listing for your dream home. Pretend you are searching for your dream home and you are writing the listing that will sell you on it. Go into detail. Describe the landscaping, the architecture, and all the features you have dreamed of.

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Harvest

I have renewed many new hobbies and started a few new one. The new one that I find most pleasurable is gardening. I have a ton of houseplants, but I wanted to try my hand at growing actual food.

I haven’t committed to a full-fledged garden, but I convinced my husband to build me a small raised-bed container garden. In it, I planted tomatoes, cucumbers, banana pepper, and jalapeños. I was so surprised that I was able to grow so much. I was so proud of myself. I had more than I could eat. I guess my next hobby will be canning.

Along with being absolutely overjoyed to actually producing food, I was also able to draw a connection to my life journey. I am beginning to reap the benefits of what I have sown.

Years ago, I made the tough decision to go back to college almost immediately after losing my grandmother, miscarrying for the second time, and coming to terms with the fact that my marriage was over. Going back to school was something that I always wanted to do, and at that time I felt I owed it to myself to continue my education. I didn’t want to pursue the path I had previously chosen. I wanted to pursue something that interested me, and I did. I had no career plans in mind for my chosen field of study, I chose with my heart and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

As a result of that decision I was able to gain a position at my university, and that position has evolved into something I really love. With a job, I was able to support myself and my son. I was able to move out and live on my own. This was my first time doing so. Surprisingly, it was very exciting and not scary at all. I had never lived on my own, but I was never afraid of it.

I loved my new independence. My son and I loved our quiet home in the country. I loved my job and everything was great.

Shortly after divorce papers were filed and I was beginning to think about what my life would be like as a single mother. I had two and a half years of practice as that was how long it took my divorce to be final, yet I was technically still married until the divorce papers were signed (thanks to the laws in my state).

During this time I was able to really see what kind of person I could be on my own. I was trying new things, enjoying impromptu ice cream runs in the middle of the night, and for the first time in a very long time, I was no longer worrying about what may happen next. I was living in the moment. I still had responsibilities, but I was teaching myself to take one day at a time. I was appreciating every small good thing that happened in my life and I devoted my energy and focus on that.

The shift in my life was extraordinary! All of the things you hear from the abundance and manifestation gurus were happening to me. Synchronicities, miracles, pleasant surprises, all became, and still are a part of my everyday life. Unexpected sums of money, gifts, and all types of wonderful things have become common in my life.

I had to change my mindset from the constant fear of the unknown to the appreciation of the present and the hope of the future. Now I am enjoying the fruits of my harvest.

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How to grow a lemon tree from seed.

Find healthy lemons from your favorite grocery store or fruit stand. Slice the lemons up. Remove seeds from the lemons. Remove the protective …

How to grow a lemon tree from seed.
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Writing Prompt #65

This week’s writing prompt: Your ancestors

Have you taken those personal genetic tests? Were you surprised by the results? Did your results confirm what you already knew?

For today’s writing prompt, write about your results. Paint a picture of the people and circumstances that were instrumental in your existence.

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When to Change, and When to Stay the Same

I love myself. I can’t remember if I ever didn’t, but I really love myself now.

There were times when I felt I needed to change. Those times were mostly because I was told so by someone else. Even then I wasn’t convinced. When I was younger, I was told I was too thin. I didn’t have any health problems, and I didn’t think I was too thin. Nevertheless, I gained weight. I didn’t to it to please myself, but to please someone else. I did quiet a few of these changes in my people-pleasing years.

There were times when I felt the need to change, and I did. I did so because I wanted to. The things I needed to change were the things about myself that I didn’t think served me or were not good for me. I changed my diet because I was not as healthy as I wanted to be. It was a personal decision. That was one of the first things I did at the resistance of those people I was trying to please. It was hard in the beginning, but I did it. All subsequent personal changes were a lot easier.

Sometimes you may need to make some changes, but they should be for your own reasons and beneficial to you. Trust your gut. You know yourself better than anyone.

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Propagation

I light of my new fondness of taking care of plants, I have started relating that care and growth to my own life experiences. One of my favorite things to do is propagate plants. I love watching the roots form and multiplying my plant family.

This led me to think about what little parts of me am I taking off to grow in the hopes of multiplying parts of me that I wants to add to the world.

I work at a university. Part of my job is to help students develop skills to succeed academically and in the world. I hope sharing the good parts of me with them so they can continue to grow.

I hope I am doing the same thing with my son. It is funny to see that we have almost the same interests and similar personalities. He too in an introvert, loves to read, and he loves the arts. I’m not sure how much of that I am responsible for, but I like to think of him as my most successful propagation.

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Deference

As of late, I have noticed that I have somewhat traded my voracious reading of books to binge-watching. This is a habit I am working to reverse, but I have seen some very interesting and thought-provoking series.

Currently I am watching The Crown on Netflix. I am fascinated by the idea of a limited monarchy, and I struggle to see its relevance. The idea of deference is what stands out for me. My character is instantly opposed to it. I find it difficult to show blind devotion to something or someone just because, but I know that it exists.

I am a parent to a wonderful 14-year-old son. When I think of any persons deserving of deference, it is parents, but we are not always deserving of it. We are all fallible, and I am not opposed to my son pointing that out to me. How are we to teach our children to think on there own if we don’t allow them to challenge things? I am not suggesting that parents not be in control of their children, but to allow them to ask questions and not to follow blindly.

I experienced such deference with an employee at my former place of employment. I had hired a man who was homeless and had very limited education. Needless to say, he was thrilled to have a job and I was even more thrilled to give him that opportunity. One day, I watched this new employed clock out and return to work. I immediately caught up to him to let him know that he is to be paid for all work he does and to not work off the clock. He responded by telling me that he knew he was not supposed to do so, but the boss told him that he had to finish the job for the day regardless of being close to overtime which he was also not permitted to have. The man then told me “You have to do what the boss says sometimes even if you know it’s not right”.

I was enraged and saddened. I was enraged because I knew “the boss” knew this man was so dependent on his employment that he would do anything to keep it. I was saddened because this man felt he had to do what he knew was not right because “the boss” told him so. Being the person I am, I a made sure “the boss” was reported and the the worker was compensated for the work he did.

My question is when does respect turn into senseless deference? At what point do you compromise your own beliefs and values in deference to something or someone?

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Bloom

I have often been criticized for being too nice or too optimistic.  I have been challenged by people who say that I am not being realistic, but I disagree.  I know  things are not perfect all of the time, but they are not bad all of the time either. 

One of my new pastimes is taking care of plants.  I have a myriad of houseplants and am now working on establishing some outside as well. I love watering them, repotting them, pruning and cleaning them.  I have done hours of research on the care of my new personal jungle.  I find the entire affair quite revolutionary.  Especially in terms of my own personal growth.  One can relate much of what I have learned about plants to one’s own life. 

Life needs to be lived and nurtured.  We need to take care of our lives and work toward growth.  Not all growth is easy.  Sometimes you must be uprooted and transplanted to new soil in order to flourish.  Often you have to evaluate an environment to make sure it is well suited to your growth and development.  Sometimes you may only need to make minor adjustments, and other times you may need to do things completely differently.  There are times when we must reduce in order to make way for the new.  We may also, on occasion, have the opportunity to take a little part of ourselves and give it away to create something new and fresh.  With all these changes, we must allow for some trial and error.  No thing is perfect.

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Write on Wednesday #64

Real Love

Today’s writing prompt: What does real love look like?

As I mentioned in my previous post, I have had so much time to self-reflect. I have also recently remarried.

Over the past year, I have learned what and who is truly important to me. I feel now know what real love feels like.

For today’s writing prompt, write what real love means to you. It does not have to be romantic love or love of another person. Write about what it means to really love anything.