We are all building something. It is up to us which materials we choose.
As like all people, I have had ups and downs, highs and lows. During the downs and lows, I felt stagnant. I felt as if I was stuck in mud, marinating in gloom and doom. What I did not know was that even in those down/low times, I was building. I was building with inferior materials of guilt, self-pity, anger, and insecurity. Those things are flimsy and degradable. Once I realized those things were not going to improve my position or outlook, I had to first get out of the mud and that required some help. Sometimes you aren’t capable of getting out of the mud on your own. You need something to grasp onto. I latched on to my faith in God. I realized I had sank so deep in the mud that I allowed my hands to get stuck as well. I had stop reaching for help. Wiggling my hands free from the mud was a choice I had to make and I made it. That was one of the best decisions of my life.
Once I reached out my hand and let faith lead the way, I was given the materials to construct an abundant life. I did not find them! I did not purchase them! THEY WERE GIVEN TO ME!
It had to be my choice to wiggle my hand free from the mud, reach out and believe. That was all I had to do. God took care of the rest. I made a choice to accept that I could not build on my own. I had to get rid of the inferior materials to make way for the premium-grade.
I would like to challenge all of you who feel you are stuck in the mud to at least wiggle one hand free. Have faith, reach out and believe.
As I mentioned in my last post, I am very open to new experiences. The most recent new experience has been with Instagram. My cousin loves to cook and so do I, but cooking was one of the things I stopped enjoying when during my season of unfortunate events. Fortunately, with some inspiration from the culinary artistry of my cousin, I revived my joy of cooking.
Recently, my cousin has also been challenging me to learn more about social media. I had opened several accounts in the past, but rarely attended to them. One social media outlet neither of us had tried was Instagram. So, we both opened accounts and began learning what it was all about. I can’t speak for him, but I was hooked. He suggested that I post some of the food I was cooking on Instagram. I couldn’t wait. So I posted my first dish. I made sure that every morsel was placed perfectly, that the lighting was just right, the plate was attractive, but not so much that it over shadowed the food. Then I posted my culinary masterpiece. The whole staging process took about 15 minutes. It was beautiful and I was so proud of it. The portion was adequate, but not too much. There was a lot of greenery to make it pop and the presentation was lovely. Then I ate it and was satisfied. Now the amazing thing was the portion size. The portion I staged for the photo was about half the size I would have chosen for myself had I not planned to photograph it. Also, from plate to mouth there was at least a 15 minute time span. As I mentioned, the portion was adequate and I was satisfied after eating it. I took time to really savor the food before I ate it. I took in the beauty of the creation before consuming it. Taking that time quelled my appetite and I was able to enjoy and be satiated with a much smaller portion. I supplemented part of my desire for the food by taking the time to prepare and admire it. Additionally, the need to add color and visual interest to the dish caused me to add more vegetables. In a sense, Instagram is helping me eat healthier.
So far I have only posted two dishes to Instagram, but I have still been preparing my meals as if they are going to be posted to Instagram. I take time to prepare it, admire it, and eat it. Taking to time to truly enjoy the experience satisfies me. A larger portion of food only filled my belly, but savoring the experience fills my soul.
I would like to challenge all of us to stop, admire, and savor all of our creations. Use all of your senses. Allow your soul to be fed.
New experiences is the first thing I say to may son when I wake him up in the morning. He is not a morning person like his mother. He needs a little extra encouragement. Actually this practice didn’t happen intentionally. I was saying, wake up little Nigel. So the next morning after the first day of school, I said it again. Then Nigel said, “Mommy, I want you to say new experiences like you did yesterday.” Actually, that wasn’t what I said, but it was a good practice to start. Now I say it to him every morning when he wakes up.
I have been putting that practice into action in my own life. I am very fond of rituals and routines and I think that is just fine, but there are times when you need to give new things a chance. I recently started drinking coffee. Now I love it! I don’t drink it every day, but I enjoy a good cup of coffee. I don’t use it as a stimulant as I have been accused of being caffeine personified, but I drink it for the taste. In the past I refused coffee because I felt that I had no use for it. I viewed coffee as a means of staying awake or jolting one from a groggy morning, things I never had an issue with. One day I decided to give coffee a try. It happened in a very strange way. I was watching an episode of Satisfaction on Netflix and I saw one of the characters making a cup of coffee with a french press. The whole process looked interesting and I wanted to try making coffee that way. That particular way of making coffee appealed to me for its simplicity. So I purchased a french press, a hand-crank ceramic burr grinder, bought a bag of coffee beans from a local coffee shop, and made my first cup of coffee. I enjoyed the process of heating the water, grinding the beans, and waiting patiently for the coffee to steep. I found the experience to be therapeutic. It is nice slow down and savor an experience, and now I have a new ritual. It forces me to slow down, take my time and really enjoy the moment.
I would not have gained this new ritual had I not been willing to try something new. I have learned to let go of feeling that I cannot benefit from something that is not necessarily marketed to me or the identity I have assigned to myself. I must remain open to new experiences. We all must let go of notion that something is “not for you” or “you are meant for something like that.”
I would like to challenge all of us to try something or experience something new. Try a new food. Visit a different place or just take another route home from work. See what’s out there!
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