Meditation has entered the mainstream of modern Western culture, prescribed by physicians and practiced by everyone from business executives, artists, and scientists to students, teachers, military personnel, and – on a promising note – politicians.
As I have written about many times, I am a work in progress. I am constantly examining things in my life, figuring out how to make things better, etc. One of the things that I love about myself is that I can have a good time alone. Sometimes I need to be alone, but that does not replace good company.
I have read a lot of self-help books, listened to seminars, read advice columns on how to be your best self and to seek your own approval before you seek the approval of anyone else. Although I believe that to be true, it is nice to have people in your life who tell you all of the wonderful things that you feel about yourself. It is nice to have people in you life who appreciate you and your contribution to the world. I’m not saying that we need outside confirmation to feel good about ourselves, but we should always be open to receiving it.
There has always been a huge push for women in particular to be independent. We should all be able to support ourselves and be independent in all areas of our lives, but we must not let that independence close us off from well-intentioned individuals who want to share life experiences with us. We do not have to prove our independence by shutting others out and going it alone. We don’t have to do that. We were not put on this earth to go through life without the fellowship, love, compassion, and companionship of others. People need people!
As a younger woman, I felt I had to prove that I didn’t need people in my life to be happy. I would go to out to dinner alone and be proud that I could do so without companionship. I wanted to prove that I could date myself, but I was honestly wanting to share a meal with someone. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with going to dinner alone, but there is also nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone. I need people.
I have also mention several times in my previous posts that I am an introvert. I love being alone sometimes. I need to be alone sometimes, but I also need people in my life. I need to socialize. I need someone to hold me when I’m sad. I need to hold hands with someone at a concert. I need someone so sing Journey songs with me in the car. I need someone to laugh at my jokes. I need someone to tell me that I am beautiful, and there is nothing wrong with that. You alone cannot supply all of your needs and it is okay to want friends or a significant other in your life.
I would like to challenge all of us to remain open to allowing people into our lives. Those who label themselves loners, antisocial, and even sometimes we introverts claim to not need people in our lives, but we do.
I can’t get through my day without music. I have a playlist for every story I write. Music means a lot to me and I truly believe in its health benefits.Music isn’t just a source of entertainment; it can benefit your physical, mental, and emotional health, too. Here are five positive influences that music can have on your mind and body.
This article really spoke to me. I hope it will speak to others.Many people want to be in relationships, without really having a clue what it is all about or what they’re all about. Real love is akin to getting married, having babies, or even getting a dog. Many people have some romantic fantasy about all these things without looking at the work involved or the responsibility or the commitment required.
This has to be the best advice for anyone who has been betrayed. So many times we feel at a loss for action against those who have done terrible things to us. Forgiveness seems to be the only honorable option, but forgiveness has to be genuine in order to heal. Truthfully, when you are hurt, turning the other cheek can be difficult. There are great ways to recover even if you are not at the point of forgiveness.
Spirital teacher Deepak Chopra explains how to recover from life’s deepest blows. Tap into inner peace with the all-new all-new Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience.
I have been in a very intense discussion with a good friend of mine about consistency. After giving him a speech about how he should not expect certain results without being consistent, I thought about my neglect of this blog.
I started this blog as a personal accountability tool. I wanted something that would help me organize my thoughts and force me to write something that I felt was in some way meaningful on a regular basis. With all of my good intentions, I have not followed my own advice. I am ashamed of myself, but I am persistent. I will not give up on this blog. I was not prepared for how much I would enjoy this blog and I was not aware of how this blog kept me on top of many other things in my life.
When I was consistently posting to this site, I was eating better, I was writing every day, I was trying new things and learning from fellow bloggers. This blog was something that I truly needed in my life. Letting it go made me aware of that. This blog held me accountable.
I recently rejoined the workforce full-time and I have had some challenges adjusting to my new schedule after being a stay-at-home mom for 8 years. This blog and many other things have taken a hit. I have also fallen back into some of my poor eating habits, but I am getting it together. I love my job and I find it very rewarding, but I still need that time to nurture my creativity, mind, and body. This post is the beginning of my doing. I will be consistent.
I would like to encourage all of us to make take the first step to consistency. It does not have to be today, but do it soon. You may be struggling in your relationships, diet, academics, etc., because you are not taking the time you deserve to make positive steps toward your goals. I urge you to make a vow to yourself to do!